Two of a Kind review

August 4, 2017 § Leave a comment

Wesleyan Creative Writing Specialization MOOC.
Capstone Project Peer Review 

I enjoyed reading your story. The characters are very believable, and their psychology and behaviors are generally realistic and credible. However, I wasn’t completely convinced that neither Allya or Jai would have any idea about Sam’s crush. It’s a crucial plot device and you a bit of time on it, but I wasn’t convinced.

Your use of dialogue is very well integrated and keeps the story moving. I love how natural it sounds and the way it reveals your characters. I did find it difficult, especially toward the end to tell whether it is Allya or Sam who is being referred to. There are a lot of ‘shes’ where I wasn’t sure if it was Allya or Sam you were talking bout, also some and ‘theys’ where it was unclear if it was them together or either one with Jai. You may need to replace some of these pronouns with their names more to help make this more clear. Giving them more distinct voices could also solve this. You do a good job of describing their differences in temperament, but this is not very well reflected in the way they speak. It might also be nice to give more physical descriptions of Allya and Sam. I found I had trouble keeping images of them in my head.

The setting is wonderful: the tree-lined drive, the lake and the bridge are all excellent touchstones for the story, but I want a bit more. This may be cultural, but I didn’t understand the layout of the estate. Was the apartment part of the villa? I thought it was across the lake, but was it part of the village or the estate, where there other apartments etc. I felt that these living arrangements must be emblematic of the class differences between the girls, but I couldn’t really get picture the geography of the place. We see so little interaction between them and the world at large: the village, other incidental characters, etc. which feels a little incomplete to me and which might help me better understand the world they live in.

The plot is clear, and the action rises via the unrequited love triangle and finally the father’s death, with the nice resolution of their reunion. Jai seems so much like a prop though. You jump to “Two years had passed since. The boy with the guitar was forgotten…” but would it be so simple? He was presumably each of their first loves, and Sam had carried an unrequited torch for him. There is very little development of who he is; in some ways he seems a total scoundrel, or maybe he is just a clueless pretty boy. I’d like their relationships to him to have some more depth. As it is he seems like just a device to stage the betrayal.

You have created two interesting and close friends, and paid homage to the power and importance of friendship. You point to differences in the personalities and backgrounds; we know Sam is bookish and privileged, and Allya worldly and working class, but somehow these distinctions aren’t that apparent in the action, language and plot of the story. Having these two sad and lost girls find and save each other, become two of a kind despite the wide gulf between them, seems to me to be the essential charm of the story and I’d like to watch the gulf close a bit more vividly. Given the weakness of the Jai character, I wonder if the love triangle may not be a little too clichéd for the cause of their estrangement. Perhaps letting other forces in the world that might want to maintain that gulf between them would better thwart them and make the conflict more universal rather than a just a boy with a guitar.

This is a lovely story and I look forward to reading the final draft.


Just a plain old baby

March 7, 2017 § Leave a comment

Sam put her hand on her mom’s belly and smiled.

“Pretty soon?” she asked.

“I sure hope so!” her mother replied as she shifted and grunted.

“What are we going to name it, Momma?” asked Pat, snugglecuddling up under his mom’s arm.

“Well, I don’t know, I think once I see it, I’ll know. It may be a Heather, or a Petra; a Chuck or a Kevin.”

“I hope it’s a boy!” said Pat.

“I hope it’s a girl!” echoed Sam.

“Well, whatever it is, I’m sure that we’ll all love it bunches,” Mom answered.

Sam began, and Pat joined in,

Fudge! Fudge!

Call the Judge!

Momma’s got a baby

Not a boy,

Not a girl,

Just a plain old baby.

And they all laughed together thinking their own thoughts about the almost finished little brother, sister, son, or daughter that was there with them, but not there too.


Sam and Pat’s eyes bugged out as they watched Mom lying on her bed groanymoaning and gruntysweating. They were a little scared, but they saw Dad holding her tight and kissing her and whispering things in her ear that made her smile in between the groans. Aunt Susan knelt between their mom’s legs looking up and saying,

“Here it comes! One more push now! I see the head!”

Pat and Sam moved timidly over to look too, and there, right in front of them, was the very top of a tiny little head, popping right out of their mom. Their jaws dropped, their eyes bulged even wider, as all of a sudden, whooosh, out it shot. Luckily, Aunt Susan caught it. All the sort of icky feelings they felt seeing the wrinkled little thing all mixed in with blood and slimygoo, melted away as they looked up and saw the gigantic smiles on the faces of their mom and dad.

Aunt Susan wiped the baby off, wrapped it up, and put it on its mom’s tummy where it closed its tiny eyes and with just a tiny little sigh and a whimper, started to suck with its tiny perfect mouth.

“Is it a boy?!” shouted Pat crowding in.

“Is it a girl?! Sam echoed looking over.

Mom, Dad, Brother and Sister all looked to Aunt Susan for the answer.

Aunt Susan responded, “Well…” but no more.

Dad chuckled and asked, “Well… What?”

Aunt Susan added “Well… it’s….”

The mom looked scared and asked nervously, “Well… it’s… what!?”

Aunt Susan replied, “Oh no, no it’s fine, just fine, healthy, happy, beautiful, wonderful, miraculous, perfect… but well… it’s….”

Sam and Pat jumped up “It’s WHAT?!!!” they yelled.

Aunt Susan hesitated as they all held their breath and stared at her “Well… I guess… it’s just a plain old baby!”

The pediatrician, looking a little confused, wasn’t quite sure how the ‘equipment’ between the baby’s legs was going to work when the baby grew up. But, judging by the wet spot on the table, the doctor pointed out that not only was it cute as a button, it was quite clearly working just fine for now. She agreed with Aunt Susan that while it was definitely neither a boy nor a girl, it certainly was a very strong and healthy, beautiful and happy baby.

Pat and Sam agreed that it was indeed a very happy, beautiful baby; and they quickly grew to love it bunches and bunches. It would suck on their noses, and smile and squeal at their sillinesses; and best of all, it would hug them so tightly with its tiny little arms that it would almost make them cry to feel so much love.

But, the mom — especially — felt sort of bad calling her baby ‘it’ all the time, she longed to say,

“Isn’t she cute!” or “My isn’t he strong!”

No one could quite imagine just who or how they would or should be if they were just a plain old person.

“Should it wear pink or blue?” questioned the mom.

“Will it be able to play football?” asked the dad.

“Is it made of snips ‘n snails, or sugar ‘n spice?” both Pat and Sam wondered.

They all disagreed as to how to treat their baby. Each She treated it as a She, and each He, as a He.

But, they all seemed to agree that their baby should live its sweet little life as one or the other, but not neither or both.

And, eventually, they all had to agree that it should realy be their baby’s very own choice.

They also disagreed on what to name their baby. It was definitely not a Heather, and not a Petra, Chuck, not a Kevin and not a Chuck, at least not yet.

They were, finally, able to all agree, that, at least for now, they would call their dear baby, Happy, just because it was.

Sam would carefully carry Happy into her room and spread all her dolls out around the tiny person who would sit so amiably in the middle of the floor, cooing contentedly, sucking on their bald little heads and chewing on their soft little arms.

Pat would take Happy outside and drive his trucks around and around. Between mouthfuls of dirt, Happy would chew on the tires while purring satisfying little motor sounds.

Happy loved being a member of this family. SheHe loved the dolls and HeShe loved the trucks. They both even loved the dirt, but in time began to understand that each of them was wishing for HimHer to be something that SheHe really quite wasn’t. Happy so wanted to be a She for Sam, a He for Pat. But, when Heing with Pat, Happy missed the She-ness; and when Sheing with Sam, missed the He-ness just as much. Happy saw the disappointment each of them would feel when HeShe was Sheheing with the other, knowing they wanted HerHim to choose, but loving each one too much to choose either. Eventually, wrestling such a hard and unbabylike problem left Happy serious and quiet, no longer the contented toy-sucking infant of HerHim’s youth.


Then, one day, a repairman came to Happy’s house to fix their TV. Happy crawled over and sat down next to the man as he worked on the big machine that HeShe had never really paid much attention to, being so caught up in HisHer own little dilemma. The man was strong and skillful, and Happy could not help being dazzled by all the glitterygadgety stuff the man had attached all over his body: hung on belts, stuck in pockets, and filling little pouches hanging on other belts. Happy was amazed by the lights and all the fancyblinky machinery that the man as using, and thought that since this was the most amazing and magnificent person that HeShe’d ever met (though Happy had not been alive long enough to meet very many) HeShe resolved to live a glittery and gadgety life as a He.

After the man had left, Happy sat and watched the flickering faces coming from the TV box. As She after He appeared on the glowing screen, (some full of love and glitter, some full of hate and gadgets — others full of hate and glitter and still others full of love and gadgets; even some with only love or glitter or hate or gadgets) Happy again felt not sure of much of anything at all, except that everyone else wished for a choice – She or He.

That night, as Happy lay sadly in HisHer little pink and blue crib, each family member paraded through with a soft and sweet good-night kiss and hug. As each She was followed by a He, Happy’s terrible indecision would swing first Sheward, then Heward. Finally, alone in the darkness, sad confusion washed back over Happy like the quiet, endless seconds spent swirling topsy-turvy beneath the green water of crashing surf.

“First thing tomorrow,” Happy thought, “I must decide, I will decide!” but as the saltysad and lonely tears filled the tiny sleepy eyes, Happy began to fear that it was a decision that was too terrible to ever make.

Before tomorrow could arrive, Happy was pried, twirling from HisHerHerHis dreams of glittering gadgets and into a dark middle-of-the-night by the loud crying of dear Pat.

“Ohhh Mmommmmyyyyy!” he wailed between bouts of spraying his dinner all over his bed.

Happy stood up, clutching on the rails of the little crib in terror, looking out into Pat’s bedroom to see the fear and pain in his eyes as Mom and Dad held and cleaned and comforted him. With that awful sight, Happy, too, began to wail, bringing Dad quickly over to snatch HimHer from the crib and back to Pat’s side. Seeing Pat curled up all sad but cozywarm in his mom’s lap made Happy feel a little better and the crying slowly turned to whimpers as Happy pulled Dad closer, with little fists that grasped tightly on Dad’s sleeves. Mom held her hand on Pat’s forehead, and shook her sleepy head,

“We better get you to the doctor!” Mom said to the poor limp Pat as she rocked him in her arms.

Soon they were sitting in the little room that the doctor used for an office in her little house. The doctor’s own little baby looked all sleepyeyed around the doorway to see what was what, and when Happy’s eyes met hers, she chirped out a little giggle and scurryhurried away, only to be brought back in the arms of her mom. Well, Happy had never met a She quite like the doctor. Without even putting the shy little girl down, the doctor opened the doors on a big white metal cabinet that was absolutely filled with all sorts of amazing and mysterious gadgets. Strapping a big shinybright light gadget on her head and taking out a whole tray of glittery things, the doctor began to gently talk to and comfort Pat.

With more skill than even a TV repairman, the doctor began pulling gadget after glittery doohickey out of her cabinet and off of her tray. And very soon (after a short siege of crying when the doctor stabbed Pat with some glittering pointy gadget) the doctor had Pat feeling, at the least, a little more confident and certainly more awake.

While Happy’s mom and dad talked with the doctor in the other room, Pat felt himself all over and exclaimed,

“Hey! I think I’m feeling better, Yup, I think I may be!” and then, Pat gave Happy a huge old hug and a kiss. Happy was dazzled, so much glittery stuff, so many wonderful gadgets, and so, so much warmsoft love. The doctor was still more amazing and magnificent than Happy had imagined anyone could be, and Happy’s heart began to ache to be just like the doctor: a She.

But once again, as Happy watched Dad gently lift Pat into his strong arms and carry him — whispering loving little words into his warm little ears — the clear resolve of the moment before melted away like cotton candy, and Happy’s awful indecision returned.


On the way home Happy sat quietly looking out the window of the car at all the quiet houses and empty streets that whizzed past, wondering about all the people sleeping in all the houses on all the streets, wondering and wondering while slowly falling asleep. As Happy’s sleeping little head rolled limply over onto the padding of the car seat, SheHe dreamed a dream of all the people in HerHis life. Happy dreamed that they stood around arguing, all at the same time, about why Happy should choose his Heness over her Sheness. The doctor was there, and Pat and Sam and Mom and Dad and even more big people whom Happy didn’t even know. But all their arguing voices just mixed together into a funny sounding buzzyhum. Happy looked up at their receding faces as they grew larger and larger, or perhaps as Happy shrank smaller and smaller, and felt lost and all alone in the whole wide world, and very very sorry for HerHis sorry little plain old self.

Then, quietly at first, off to the side, Happy heard a tiny voice, and there crawling over and calling Happy’s name, was the doctor’s shy little daughter. The two babies met in a ring of giant shoes as a distant echoing hummybuzz fell from above like a gentle drizzle.

“Ya’ know,” said the doctor’s baby without moving its lips, “there’s a lotta different ways to be. Sometimes I wish with all my heart that my mommy wasn’t a doctor with all her glittery gadgets. Sometimes I wish she would just be some kind of repairmom. Sometimes, in the middle of the night when I’m scared, I wish that she would just throw all these other people’s babies right out the window and take care of only me. And sometimes, I wish — oh sometimes I wish so so so bad that we had a daddy of our very own to take care of all the other people’s babies so my mommy could be with me and just me.”

Happy’s melancholy mood vanished before the strange but soothing dilemma of this other baby, and SheHe listened carefully to the clear and simple thoughts of this new friend, who continued, “Sometimes, daddies come to my house with their babies curled up all sadsick and sore in their arms. And sometimes those babies don’t even have any mommies at all. But ohh, sometimes, babies come to my house that don’t have any mommies or any daddies, but just the police to take care of them. And I bet those babies wish that they had just any old kind of plain old person to have for their very own to just hug em and love em and kiss em and take good care of them!”

All the giant shoes were suddenly gone, and now, in Happy’s dream, there were just two babies. Two giant babies sitting on top of two little hills like two little stools. And all the houses and roads and cars and cities surrounded them like teenytiny toys. Happy looked out over the tiny world, and wondered about all the decisions that waited to be made by all the people that lived in all the houses on all the roads in all the cities.

But the doctor’s baby wasn’t finished, and pointing out across the miniature universe spread out before them, she continued, “We are just babies. We have our whole lives rolling out ahead of us just like all these tiny little roads. We will travel without the slightest idea of what we may find around the next bend, or what life might ask from us. We have no way to know what we might discover if we choose to turn to the right, or if we choose to turn to the left, or even if we choose to just go straight on. But no matter how far or in which direction we go, someday, we will all come to just exactly the same end of the road. All we can do is to try and pick the way that feels like it’s just our way, and decide to be just whoever we happen to turn out to be.”

“Being a plain old person may turn out to be just the best thing ever, or the worst. Sure, you could act like a He, but you would still be just exactly you — or, you could be a She, but it wouldn’t really change a thing. Inside you’d still be exactly the same plain old person. I may be a She on the outside, but ya know what? On the inside, I’m just a plain old baby just like you, and just like every other person ever was.”

“Sometimes,” said the doctor’s daughter very quietly, “that plain old person inside me can’t quite be the She its supposed to be; sometimes that me just isn’t very She. But since I met you — the very first person ever to stay just a plain old person — I feel a whole lot better about being the me that’s not too She. And it’s a whole lot easier for me to be just me and not somebody’s idea of what a She should be.”

The wise little DreamShe leaned over to give Happy a little thank you kiss just as Dad accidentally bumped Happy’s head against the side of the seat as he was taking Herhim out of the car and inside into HisHer’s very own bed. Happy’s friend disappeared as SheHe jerked awake and heard Dad coo, “Oooo, sorry my lil’ bug,” as he bundlecuddled Happy securely into his strong arms and up onto his shoulder.

Feeling safe and warm and loved and happy, Happy began to fall back to sleepydream in Dad’s arms. Happy wondered how HerHis life would turn out. HeShe wondered where SheHe would go, what HeShe would do, and whom SheHe would love, but didn’t wonder anymore about being a He or a She, for Happy realized that SheHe was very happy to be just a plain old baby, and they were.


Holly Days

December 1, 2013 § Leave a comment


A freezing wind rattles the bright red berries on the stiff green boughs. The early dusk of winter lights a massive stone as it is set to point toward the setting of the solstice sun. As the sky fades to deep blue, then black, the ancient masons must surely have pondered their own subtle purpose as they watched the sparkling crystal sky-dome appear from behind the veil of fading blue. Perhaps, for a moment, they felt their own certain mortality reflected in that slowly dying sun, their own passage into oblivion in those cold and distant stars. Surely their hearts were filled with deeply felt prayers and wishes that just as those bright berries could stand down the winter frost, that their lives, their sun, their sons, would awaken once again tomorrow, waken once again next year, as the fruited plains erupted in fecund splendor. How distant those ripe apples, those plump spikes of grain must have felt on that cold and freezing night. How gladly must they have seen the promise of that glad Holly, in its pledge of life still strong?

The dying light of that same solstice, that cast long shadows of those builders and their stones across the Salisbury Plain, had just rolled across Canaan, sending Abraham into his tent to escape the cold desert night. That same first winter dusk, crept across the valley of the Indus River, and hid the newly scribed Vedas in the same frigid darkness. The mystery and rhythm of our own fragile earth, of our infinitely more fragile lives, has risen and fallen along with these seasons for all people in every time. The cycles of the mortal death of our fragile flesh, the joyous births of our helpless children share the pacing of our planet and its mother sun. However they may have spoken of these hopes and fears, however they may have symbolized, ritualized or interpreted those primal feelings, they have always been a part of the interplay between our lives and our home, this dear earth.

We share with these long lost, but not forgotten people this same fear and fascination with the cycles of renewal of our planet. The sun, marching south along the horizon, falling lower and lower each day, threatens to vanish beyond our world. Its bold turn north, it’s triumphant reversal back into assent, is an inspiriting promise of revival. These hinges of the sun’s passage are our most basic symbolic connections to fundamental life giving cycles. Certainly not so fierce for us, in our warm homes, on our brightly lit streets, but still, every winter as we watch the leaves die and fall, we can not help but think of our own tree of life, and our own individual fates as doomed as the leaves which once hung on the dark branches of the sleeping forest. We still look to the immortality of our children’s children’s children. We still feel that cold and sad retreat of warm grass, bright flowers and naked children in the sun. Those barren branches in the low cool light cannot help but make us pray that the dark and dying corners of our own lives will rebound and flourish once again, just as we know that forest will also bloom as the sun climbs back to its zenith. Every death we grieve, every birth we cherish is a manifestation of this grand pulse of global life. We are kin to every creature who watched this slow descent into the cold oblivion of winter with the fondest hopes for the return of fruitful meadows, for the healthy survival of their shivering children – for the return of the sun, the light.

There can be no doubt that our inner resonances with these grand cycles are at the heart of all the bright winter festivals and rituals of renewal in every culture across all time. The anniversaries of grand moments in the histories of those ancient people are lost dates, counted on obsolete calendars. No one knows on what day Jesus was born, or on which the brave Macabees died. The bureaucracies of faith have chosen these winter days precisely because they have this deeper meaning, these profound connections with our most primal spirits. The mysterious ideals that their prophets and martyrs have so feebly tried to understand and explain to us are and always will be, mere shadows of the intrinsic spirit of this global life system. Despite the protestation of every Chanukah play and every Christmas pageant, it is not the miraculous lanterns of the bloodthirsty Macabeans, not the shunned peasant babe in a stable that we really celebrate this season.

The True Meaning of these joyous holidays is far more ancient, far more personal, far more universal that the auto da fe of some dogmatic principal. The birth of the baby Jesus to redeem the world, the rebuilding of the temple to restore the faith – these are merely closely circumscribed symbols of our greater and shared hopes – merely touchstones in our passages as finite members of the grandeur that is the miraculous livingness of which we are part. From our common and timeless relationship with our earth, our sun and our universe, we all feel the same wilting terror in the face of death, and the same shimmering hope at the sight and thought of new life as each of those ancient heroes and all their spawn, of all their mother’s mother’s mothers, of all our countless cousins across this planet and all of time.


These brave winter fruit – our toyon and pyrocantha, or the bright holly berries of Europe – symbolize for us the almost changeless passion of life for living. These tiny clusters of humble crimson promises – perhaps even better than those long dead martyrs – evoke clear and universal sympathy with our joined plight of peoples and planet; of the miraculous and timeless way, eon after eon, life has withstood the endless return of killing winter cold, the cataclysmic onslaught of cometary impacts and ash spewing volcanoes. How inspiring, in the face of our own short flash of individual life, is this tenacity of Life, our Life, this divine spark that we all share. Can’t you see, in those bright sparks of fruit, the immortality of this grand family, the beauty and majesty of this planetary ecosystem, the bright cheeks of the healthy newborn, and the life giving blood that joins our trillions of cells in a communal and living broth? Don’t the colored lights draped on eaves, the candles glowing night after night and the sweet young evergreens symbolize nothing so much as our brave stand against this dying season? Doesn’t the bounty of festive banquets in a time of naked orchards; doesn’t the generosity of freely given presents in the time of dwindling stocks, represent nothing so much as our confidence that we will prevail, just like Life always has – our confidence that we can manifest our own plenty even as the planet wanes? Aren’t the smiles of children and the gratitude of loved ones as they receive their gifts really just prayers for renewal and bounty?

I am so offended when this authentic and natural impulse to pray for the return of the sun is rudely co-opted by some power hungry patriarch – when to remember and encourage the supple buds of spring, to celebrate the persistence of this mystery that fills my sprit, is demeaned as untrue to the anointed and contrived ritual telling of their dogma. The huge joy I find in creating a sense of bounty and plenty in contrast to the waning beams of winter light; the grateful palliative of bright and joyful lights, of gifts and goodwill, of ritual and remembrance comes straight from my heart, from our hearts in ancient and profound connections to this nature – our nature that we are so inextricably a part of. How dare they scold me that my genuine joy is false unless it gives only praise to their doctrine? How dare they judge as unworthy any expression of faith and gratitude that does not respect their arbitrary rituals?

I claim every tradition! They have all been “my people,” for we have always been only one people. We all know that, and we can all feel it in our common struggles against the great forces that eternally challenge our most cherished lives. Obsolete rivalry among the siblings of mankind may have made these petty turf wars inevitable. But today, whether on the Salisbury plain, in the deserts of Canaan or on the banks of the Indus, we can look directly into one another’s eyes; we can concretely witness the hopes and spirits of all our diverse kin. We should no longer abide the xenophobes who wish to divide us so they may commandeer our spirits. We must no longer bow to the elite who trade wishful platitudes that soothe our frightened minds, when their traditions only seem to divide us. They will not usurp my joy and ownership of these Holly Days. How dare they proclaim their perfect knowledge of the “true meaning” of this holy time. How dare they pit one family against the other with protestations of the one truth? We are one family and we cannot allow them to divide us any longer. It is in recognition of the deep and holy connection that we share with every soul of every age; it is this common experience that we must celebrate. It is the union of our experience as but one experience on this earth, in these immutable cycles that we must rejoice in.

Happy Holly Days

How My Granpa Ate Christmas.

June 24, 2013 § Leave a comment


My grandpa sat in his fancy velvet Santa suit, looking at himself in the mirror as he painted goo on his lip and took a big drag off his Salem cigarette.

“That word ‘Christmas’ always kinda sticks in my throat,” he said as the smoke leaked out of his mouth and nose. “Nobody knows when that damned baby Jesus was born anyway.”

He began to press the big, white handlebar moustache onto his lip. “Nobody really knows when them damn Macabees miscalculated how much oil they had left either. Calendars been all messed up a buncha times since then.”

He put the beard’s strap over his head, and pressed the sides into the goo on his cheeks, then pulled on that cool wig, and silly red hat. He was the best-looking Santa you ever saw. Didn’t wear no padding, and his suit and beard and stuff was rented from some big Hollywood costume place. He told all the kids he was the real Santa, that the others were all just stand-ins for him. He had this whole cockamamie back-story worked out: where he kept his reindeer downtown in this big meat locker, and how nervous it made them, how his sleigh was getting tuned up by Big Daddy Ed Roth, and all the labor troubles he was having with his elves.

The little kids bought it. They even brought their little friends to the little toy store to see him. He didn’t sit in any throne or anything though. He walked around bellowing that huge “ho ho” he had, and doing cartwheels on the sidewalk and almost causing car wrecks and stuff. Grandpa kinda bought it himself. He would watch the kids in the store, and pick a couple whose dads were like dead or something, so that they were all sad, and weren’t gonna get any Christmas presents; and then on Christmas eve, he’d take a bunch of the toys he got in trade for playing Santa, put em in this big old red sack he sewed, and just show up at those kid’s houses, then pull exactly what they wanted outta that bag. Man, you can bet those kids believed.

I guess my Granpa kinda hated his preacher-dad, and so he got to hate the baby Jesus too. But he loved Xmas, as he liked to call it. Plus a bunch of my dad’s friends were Jewish, and Afro American and atheist and Buddhist and stuff. It was always a mess at the school pageant over like what was too much baby Jesus stuff or too much Macabee stuff, or not enough Kwanza stuff. So Granpa put them all in that big red sack, shook it all up and poured out what he calls “Holly Days.”


It is cool cause when all the trees have lost their leaves and it is getting dark at dinner time, and so cold you’da died outside, Holly bushes make a bunch of red berries like they’re fighting back. Granpa says, all these holidays are right at this time to do just that, fight back the dying light. So, we light up a big Holly Days menorah with 12 candles instead of 8, and we have a Holly Day Tree, but we don’t put it up until Christmas Eve, when we hop a fence and steal it from a closed Christmas tree lot. Best of all, we get a present on every one of the 12 Holly Days.

12 like in that song. It starts on the Solstice day; the shortest day of the year, that’s day one. By then all the Muzak is playing Mannheim Steamroller and everybody already has their trees and lights and stuff, so we figure it’s time to get the party started. Usually the first couple’a gifts are not too hot, but we start right in lighting our candles and having special dinners, and talking about the principals and all that philosophical stuff my Dad and Granpa are so into. The first 3 are Unity, Kindness and Compassion. On Christmas Eve, it’s Hope, cause we hope we get some good stuff. Then on the day of, is Generosity, cause most everybody tries to be real generous with each other on that day. And after, it’s Gratitude, when we are grateful that we get to buy most of our presents when everything’s on sale.

Then, on those lost days between Christmas and New Years, Granpa put in his personal code: Truth Love and Courage. He says if we have the courage to always look for the truth and accept it with love, everything will always turn out for the best. I don’t know about that though, things can turn out pretty crummy sometimes, no matter what.

On the last three days, we kinda do the Jewish New Year where you’re ‘sposed to face your guilt and stuff and then Atone. That’s the 10th day, Atonement. We always have to discuss like whether or not it’s ok to throw apple cores but not orange peels in the bushes at the park and stuff. But on Forgiveness: New years Eve, we do have a party, and watch the ball drop and all kiss each other and stuff, cause it changes from Forgiveness to Redemption right then. And we still get presents, usually little ones, whatever’s left over, but sometimes it’s cool stuff people forget to get you and found at the sales.

Granpa’s too old to do Santa anymore; and Dad’s too skinny, and doesn’t really like people anyway. Some of my friends think it’s weird that we don’t celebrate Christmas, but we do. Holly Days is Christmas, Chanukah, Kwanza Roshashannah and Ramadan all at once. My favorite part is The Stealing of the Tree, cause it feels like you’re doing something bad but you really aren’t cause they are just gonna have to pay for a dumpster to throw all those old trees in anyway.

Good Bye Santa Claus

June 24, 2013 § 1 Comment


An honor guard of girl scouts flank the casket next to a large horseshoe shaped flower wreath with a banner that reads “Good Bye Santa Claus”. My mom puts her arm around my shoulder as we walk glumly back toward the parking lot, avoiding eye contact with the surprising huge crowd, that makes me feel both proud and embarrassed.

The dead Santa is my father. I am 12 years old, and he is barely 45, when he suddenly drops dead of a massive heart attack. He is a character actor, a bohemian and an atheist, a hedonist and aesthete whose greatest joy in life has been pretending he is the real Santa Claus.

He got this gig from Ira Katz, a curmudgeonly old Jew who owns a little toy store in our neighborhood. I love Ira, when he finds out that me and my buddies love these little die-cast cars called Dinkytoys, he makes a point of stocking the largest selection in town. When we become swept up in the post-sputnik science boom, he puts in a special student science section. We all love Ira and my father-of-three-out-of-work-at-xmas begs Ira to let him play Santa in Ira’s store in exchange for gifts for my sisters and me.

They become good friends, the Jew and the atheist, writing credible backstory to convince the kids that this is the real, one and only Santa, and most of them buy it. This Santa doesn’t sit in some throne, this Santa walks the aisle and gets down on his knees at kid level and speaks softly, lovingly. This Santa goes out on the street and waves at passing cars, and fantastically, despite his girth, does cartwheels and hand springs, grand jete’s and pirouettes, as he bellows out his ho ho ho’s. Yup, this is the real Santa.

Santa and Ira get to know just what all the kids in the neighborhood want for Christmas or Chanukah and they relish sharing this secret knowledge with the kids’ parents. But there are always a few who have fallen on hard times, and to whom the knowledge of their kid’s desires is a just dagger in their hearts. Moved by this, Ira and Santa take the gifts they know these kids want, and after the little store closes, they stay up late discussing philosophy, art and science, as they wrap up these gifts and put them in a big red velvet sack.

Then on Christmas Eve, Santa glues on his beard and pulls on his boots one last time, loads that big red velvet sack in the back of his Buick, and shows up, unannounced, and unexpected at these families’ homes. My father is a big man who needs no padding to play Santa, and his laugh booms in a way that makes a particularly convincing ho ho ho. After he has handed out the gifts, the joy and wonder he sees in these kids’ eyes unleashes an especially authentic bout of ho ho’ing, and with that, he just turns and walks away, leaving the kids’ hearts full of delight, and their parents’ eyes full of tears of gratitude.

The tears today at the cemetery all from grief, and I wipe my eyes as my Mom leaves me at the edge of the parking lot to get our car. I cringe as I watch the scoutmaster approach and I lower my eyes. He puts his hand on my shoulder, and in a loud forceful voice, slapping me on the back in a failed effort at a good-natured gesture says, “Well, it looks like you’re the man of the family now.”

The tears well up in my eyes again, and I look into his grinning face with horror, then turn and run back down to the graveside. I know I am just a boy, and I know, without a doubt, that I am a long way from being able to walk in Santa’s boots.

Oh Superman

June 6, 2013 § Leave a comment


The day I learned of the existence of the man I love more than any other in the world, I was on deadline, it was hectic and thrilling, with me, the formerly F minus English student volunteering as the technology editor on the Daily Planet Almanac being published as a school project at an alternative high school where I was “teaching”, high in the Santa Cruz mountains. On the other end of the phone, incomprehensibly choking out words between sobs was an old girlfriend of mine. When we had met, I was a 19 year old convalescing from a motorcycle accident, too broken to complete my junior year studying sculpture, lost and confused. More a groupie than a girlfriend really, who within a few minutes of meeting me was giving me head in the back of my car. A coke-fueled party girl was just about what doctor gonzo would have ordered at that point in my life, but having more sex than I imagined I was capable of, wore thin much faster than I expected, and her woefully unenlightened stance that began to glare as the testosterone wore off, had me spending the next couple of years trying to chase her away. She learned very well in that time that I was a soft-hearted pushover who would fold at the mere hint of her suffering, and here she was, a year or more since I had last seen her, suffering for all she was worth. She was obviously really in trouble, and despite my anger and disgust, I managed not to hang up on her.

Eventually I pieced together that she was in the hospital, bleeding and pregnant – 5 months, so it was long past having her nth abortion. She had told them her boyfriend was coming to pick her up, and how soon could I be there. I was furious with her but concerned for the baby she was carrying, and I reluctantly agreed that in a couple of days, once the galleys were proofed, I would come and get her.

I took a room next to hers in the Hard Times Hotel, an old Victorian converted to a rooming house in an area of San Francisco we called Pacific Depths, and agreed to be her birth coach. I would keep her hepatitis at bay, feed and care for her and the fetus, and try to make sure it got out of her unscathed. Despite her cavalier attitude about her surprising fertility, I assumed she would give this one up for adoption like the baby she had when she was 17, whom she called Phaedra after the Nancy Sinatra song, and of whom she kept a single crumbled snap shot.

Pregnancy, it turns out, is quite a powerful drug in itself, and she quickly cleaned up her act, busying her self nesting and preparing to actually become a mother. I was moved and impressed, and my anger turned toward respect and sympathy. I read Frederic Leboyer’s Birth Without Violence and bawled my eyes out at a lecture he gave. We studied Bradley and Lamaze, I watched her grow strong and confident, and began to like her more than I had since just before that first time I came in her mouth on the day I had met her. So much so that I painted a life sized mural of an Orca family, mom dad and baby, on the wall above her bed and started to wonder if I might actually stick around. But remembering all the insanity in her life, I steeled myself that my deal was just until I got him (we knew by then it was a boy) out of her.

San Francisco General had just opened an alternative birthing center, and as her contractions quickened we checked in with our midwife, who informed us that, already 10 cm dilated we would give birth right there in the cramped examination room, not in the cute little birthing room with its bean bag chairs, macramé plant hangers and brunt orange curtains, as we had planned. She screamed obscenities and begged for drugs for about half an hour as she clawed at my arms, which made me feel pretty relieved that my contract with her was just about to expire. But then, they handed me this tiny little person, and I looked into his gentle eyes, wide with wonder, fixed in an adoring stare at mine, and was hopelessly smitten. Shit, what was I thinking?

I can’t believe that I thought I would be able to walk away once he was out of her body. He was even more fragile and in need of me there in the air, wobbling head bobbing above the tile floor or slipping around in the sink. But looking at her nurse him, I could not help but try and make a family just like the one I had painted on her wall.

We got a bigger place, and for a couple of months it was all Norman Rockwell, her clean, sober and devoted with me working at a hip little garage in the City. But then, sadly and slowly, she started to come down off the mommy hormones, and began to get antsy.  She was going stir crazy she said, she just needed a night out she said, and with a promise to be back in time for his early morning feeding, she got all dressed up and out she went. He was a great baby, always bright-eyed and happy, and my love for him grew every day. But that morning when he awoke hungry as he always did just before sunrise, and she wasn’t there, he was really pissed off. All my bouncing and dancing, my running the vacuum, my singing and begging were futile in the face of his hunger, and finally, in desperation, I put him to my breast. He latched on and sucked with all his might, calming himself, and for a few moments we were at peace.

The sensation was strange and painful, tickling, tingling, burning, itching and actually sort of embarrassing, but he was finally contented for a few minutes, and I let him have at it. As the sun rose and he realized that my teat was just some tiny arid and cruel joke, he started into another furious tear. Thankfully, just as I was cursing her with a fury uncommon to me, she arrived – boobs bursting, milk running down her thighs and I thrust him into her arms where he quickly settled into his usual milk stupor, and exhausted, fell contentedly asleep.

I yelled at her, I scolded her, I pleaded with her, I begged her, and she timidly promised it would never happen again, but of course it did. The pediatrician said I would probably produce milk, most men could, likely colostrum at least and that it would be good for him. I tried, but that let-down feeling was so intense and weird, my boobs felt like they were starting to grow, and I realized humbly that I just wasn’t that enlightened. So I got some formula and the next time she disappeared for a couple of days, I began to wean him.

I moved us back to LA where my family was and her junkie pals weren’t, but she found new ones. She would go off on benders, disappearing at times for weeks, coming home weak and yellow with a hepatitis flair up. I would then take care of both of them, he who so deserved and appreciated it, and she who I grew to resent more with each round. Finally, I told her if she left again, she should not return, and she didn’t. When he asked, weh-wiz mommy, I could finally answer, and say, she has an apartment in Hollywood, and that helped him.

I bawled my way though Kramer vs Kramer, and dove unabashedly into single fatherhood. But as far as the world was concerned, I was nothing to this little guy who was now the love of my life. He had made me a father, and somehow, the open sore left by the sudden death of my own father when I was 12 was mostly and miraculously healed. In many ways I selfishly cherished my difficult role as a single dad, and was petrified that I might somehow lose him. Lawyer after lawyer told me my choices were to marry her, (no way) or have her relinquish her parental authority, (no way) so that I could adopt him. He knew nothing of all this. I was his dad, that’s all he knew, and for then, I felt that was all he needed to know.

I was doing video editing for a lawyer working on Rowan and Martin’s lawsuit against their Laugh In producer, George Schlatter (which they won). Since I often had my son with me at these sessions, this lawyer sometimes brought his girlfriend, who was a family law attorney herself, along with her 9 year old son. She and I chatted like a couple of moms at the park, and I eventually shared my parenthood problem with her. One day, she excitedly announced that she had solved it: the Uniform Parentage Act. It was mostly used to enforce paternity in the days before DNA on dead beat dads who had held themselves out as fathers, but then, absent the romance, wanted rid of its product as well. There was no reason she explained that I could not use the statute to say, hey I’m holding myself out to the community as this child’s father and get a judge to declare as much, which he did. We agreed that in payment for her and her boyfriend’s work preparing the case, that she would baby sit for me while I did a valve job on her lovely old 1950 Alfa Romeo Giulietta spider. I cherish the worn and yellowing carbon copy of that court order to this day, and bet that evretyingme she drives that little red roadster, she thinks of Lan and me.

But my son was still in the dark. I had no idea how, when or if to explain this strange relationship to him. I was terrified that it might alienate him, or make him feel insecure, and so, when he was about 6, I found a family therapist, and he and I began to have sessions in the home of a wonderful woman in our neighborhood, a single parent herself, who agreed we needed to handle this revelation carefully. Shortly after we began, her 16 year old son was killed in a motorcycle accident. I was not really able to imagine troubling her with what now seemed like my petty dilemma, but she asked that we continue, that it would be a comfort to her to continue her work with us, because unlike too many of her patients, ours was a problem not full of pain or dysfunction but one borne only of deep, healthy and mutual love. My son and I came to feel a bit like parts of her family, and I suspect we continued seeing her long after our path had become clear to all of us. Her daughter delighting in playing with my cute little son, as she and I shared our love for our kids and the sorrow of our losses.

Finally she blessed my confession and he and I took a ride into Griffith Park, as I had so often done with my own father, and parked at Bee Rock to watch the sunset. As I began reciting my script about where babies come for, he became sullen and turned away from me, I was scared and confused, but prepared, and so continued, even as I became more frightened at his stiffening fear, which seemed so inharmonious with the deep love I intended to share with him. Suddenly, it occurred to me as I watched the terror rising in the reflection of his face turned so stalwartly away from, that he already knew what I was about to tell him. I could almost hear her spitting out in some paranoid crash: “You know, he’s not even your real dad”. I realized that what he thought was unfolding may have been his worst nightmare, that this man, the only solid reliable thing in his life, had discovered this dark secret, and that I too was about to reject him. That I too would too abandon him like his mom had. And so I shifted gears, and jumped straight to proclaiming my love. I abandoned my script and explained how I had not intended to be his dad, how if he had been some fussy baby, some angry little man, I may have left him to his mom. I was realizing for myself, in that moment, that it was he and his beautiful spirit, so apparent even on that first day in that stuffy little exam room, who had saved me, who had loved me and drawn me into his world of beauty and innocence, and I saw, in his reflection in the side window of my truck, the frightened scowl he had been wearing grow into a huge grin. He did not turn to face me right away, but I put his favorite tape, Laurie Anderson’s Oh Superman into my cassette deck, and stoked his head, until he climbed out of his car seat and into my lap as we cried and laughed together. Oh superman, oh judge, oh mom and dad, mom and dad… here come the planes.

The Barbie Fetish

June 6, 2013 § Leave a comment


The singing of the creek was all that was left inside the tiny crooked cabin that had once been our home. It was now surrounded with scraps from our feast of life. Picking through the rubble, putting the probably useless mementos: the grade eight washers, shelf clips and assorted doohickys into my already jammed pockets, I chanced to discover, laying face down in the dirt, the decapitated head of Peaches and Cream Barbie. Our sons had delighted in teaching our four year old daughter how one could rip Barbie’s head off, and then jam it back on, leaving the tiny beauty queen almost good as new. Perfume Pretty Barbie, Tropical Fun Barbie, Magic Prom Date Barbie, all had faced this pre-adolescent guillotine, but poor Peaches and Cream had not been lucky enough to be resurrected. She had been separated from her body, perhaps by some randy kitten.

Barbie seems like an icon of sinless lechery. I’m sure she’s what God’s girlfriend must look like. Her fifty-three-Olds-bumper-guard breasts, three-quarter inch waist, and melon-smooth crotch epitomize some form of asexual eroticism: a vamp Madonna, virgin whore. Man in god’s image against nature. Not wanting to condemn such high art to ignoble oblivion in the recycling center of my pockets, or to lose her in my garbage can of a car (had I not succumbed to paying eighteen dollars for this girl toy and her endless TV promotions?), I searched for a place where her chances of rebirth would not be jeopardized by my slovenliness. In a flash of brilliance I took the metallic band that held her long golden tresses into a stylish coif, and stretched it around the rear view mirror of my car. Somehow Barbie’s wayward body never materialized, and that Peaches and Cream head became like a pair of fuzzy dice, bobbing mindlessly above my dash.

We had a Chinese junk when I was young. It was an elegant and fragrant object that I loved more deeply than any inanimate thing really deserves. They say that junks are built without written plans. Instead, a master builder sings a song. The song lasts just as long as it takes to complete the junk. Ours appeared to have been whittled totally out of teakwood logs. Each hand-hewn piece was carefully though crudely carved, each stroke of the workman’s hand, each verse of the song, was perfectly recorded in the tiny cut marks. It had two wide, deep blue cartoon eyes painted on it’s bow. They say the builders believe that a craft must have eyes in order to find its way. I started to wonder if perhaps Barbie’s perky eyes watching the road ahead of me might keep me out of some ditch some day, and I gradually began to see her as a necessary component of my car. One day, gleaning through the junk that always seems to materialize in my pockets, I came upon a bright yellow plastic poodle barrette. I save such bits of flotsam with the hope that I might find some use for them before finally consigning them sadly to the landfill. A neatly trimmed poodle seems somehow spiritually akin to Barbie and so I felt it appropriate to make this barrette a gift to my Barbie head. Clipping it unceremoniously into her hair, I felt an inkling of some jumbo spiritual awakening.

I wonder if Barbie noticed the day my son said, “Look dad, a hawk!” as a huge black bird swooped majestically across the road. It was barely three feet above the pavement, and ten feet in front of the car. It banked and headed back, now five feet in altitude, and we stopped and got out to watch it. “That’s not a hawk,” I said in amazement, “It’s a vulture!” We watched that ugly, evil, black bird turn back and forth across the road attempting to gain enough altitude to cross the canyon. Like a hawk, its flight was soaring and efficient. But this vulture’s flight was the zenith of efficiency. To it, a wing beat seemed worth a zillion dollars. Even our presence could not dissuade it from utilizing this thermal, and it stalwartly continued, refusing to give up even a speck of the energy it was so jealously conserving. It would pass out of sight as it turned around a bend in the road, and then return to cross within ten feet of us, gaining a few feet. Then in an instant, as it passed in front of us, it carefully turned its wrinkled red head toward me and I made eye contact with its deep black eyes. Suddenly and miraculously, it was no longer the big ugly bird it had been a moment before, but a perfect and noble life. I now saw its flight as a Zen thing, no clutching, no waste, just clean function. Each time its huge, smooth, black form and long elegant wings passed us, it became more and more wonderful. Each turn was more thrilling than the last, and we came to love this magnificent creature. As we watched in awe, the beautiful figure finally turned and soared across the canyon to pick up another thermal on the far side, still with no more than the slightest twitch of its feathers. When it was gone, we missed it. I felt a funny kind of emptiness in the passing of this shining and transcendental experience. I was back in the world of Barbies and poodles. In that world I felt silly at falling in love with a vulture. As we drove away, still in awe of this incredible aeronautics display, we thought about our new friend’s life in its new light. I imagined it feeding on some squashed squirrel, and saw the same efficiency and easy passage in the world. It did not kill, only clean up. It was not the coward of its former life, but the master of a life not in challenge, finding sustenance in the leavings, and satisfaction with what is. I imagined a new nation devoted to efficiency and harmony with the symbol of the vulture on its seal.

We had “returned to nature”, establishing a little compound of tents and trailers on our eight oaken acres as we prepared to build a new home. Our vacant land, already densely populated by the likes of fox, rabbit, coyote, owls, ands hawks, now swelled by one goose, three cats, some odd number of kittens and six humans. Our kittens disappeared one at a time, until there was only one left. She was sad and lonely and missed her sibs. She was my least favorite of this litter, but when she finally failed to show up to eat for a couple of days, her passing was the saddest for me: no more frisky fur playing in our tipi. She epitomized the tragic side of life consuming life. Each night a large unseen owl would perch in a tall sycamore across our now silent creek and call a haunting who-song. Once it’s dark shadow swept across the road as I walked to the “porta-poop” (as the kids call our chemical toilet). I had them place the thing a couple hundred feet from our little compound, mostly to avoid the stink, but also to draw us out into the natural world. I have often been enraptured by stepping naked, still drunk with sleep, into the cold middle of the night to take a pee. My eyes, used to the darkness of their lids, always see more stars, more detail in the chaparral, more small nocturnal things, than in any other darkness. I then, subtly altered, gratefully take this magic world back to bed with me, and cook it in the oven of my dreams. Regretting my romanticism a little as I continued down the muddy trail, I passed a neighbor who had taken one of our kittens from the last litter. I asked of its fate. It too had returned to the earth. “Probably an owl,” she said, “maybe a coyote.” As I sat in that tiny smelly room, I imagined our terrified little kitten screeching in the bloody talons of that dark form, and with that image, the owl, once wise and good, became transformed into a cruel murderer. That vicious owl became the summation of the inescapable evil in all things. Why couldn’t it be more like my new friend the vulture? The vulture had no need to rip my pets to shreds. It had found a way to live lightly, without the screaming fear of the meek. But it was probably a coyote I thought.

Driving down the freeway the next morning, a large brown form on the shoulder caught my eye. “Hmm, that looked like an owl” I said to myself. Then, in the instants that followed I reflected, “No, these musings must have transmuted that shape into an owl in my minds eye.” But reviewing the image I wondered if, “Perhaps that really was an owl.” Compelled by my often dangerous curiosity, I pulled over. Backing perilously up the freeway’s shoulder, I thoroughly expected to discover some roughly owl-shaped lump of dead-dog, muddy-rag, or rusty-muffler. As I drew closer, I realized that it was indeed the body of a large horned owl. Amazed, I reverently picked up its perfectly intact corpse, studying it’s beautiful feathers, once-powerful great, hooked beak and surprisingly sharp talons, and placed it carefully in the back of my car. I continued on my way pondering the owl’s, and my own, fickle mortality. Was this the very individual who had so greedily executed our kittens, punished by the gods of overpasses and pets? How had it come to expire in such an owl-forsaken place, and what quirk of circumstance and coincidence had conspired to rob it of its once noble, now ephemeral, life. I could not help but to guess at the answers. Even if by some broad serendipity this was our kitty bandit, I was struck by a deep sympathy for the departure of this proud, if obscure and distant, cousin. When I got home I hooked its large, menacing claws over the extension cord that I’d strung out to the tipi. Hanging upside down, it spread its giant, beautiful wings for the last time, powered this time by gravity and not our once shared and wondrous spark of life.

I felt sorry and inexplicably responsible for its demise. A neighbor happened by and asked what I planned to do with this owl. He informed me that he had a barrel filled with the skulls of small animals, and that if I didn’t want it, he would like to have the skull of my owl. I certainly didn’t have the heart to dissect this sad and lifeless thing, so I replied that if he was willing to cut it up, he was welcome to the skull, if only he would leave the wings and talons for me. A friend of mine, when I was little, had the wing of some large bird on a shelf in his bedroom. I had always loved to study that wing. I would stroke the feathers and marvel at its phenomenally complex forms and engineering. I treasured the way the disheveled feathers would miraculously mend themselves with a gentle caress. Our neighbor left the wings and talons on top of our trailer for me. Someday I’ll have to go and see his skull collection.

Driving, again with my son, down into the valley, we were struck by the sight of twenty or thirty large birds in the huge old eucalyptus trees that line the road. Above, another thirty or so birds circled in a gigantic spiraling column. “Vultures!” he exclaimed. I quickly pulled over, and we stood beneath the gnarly old trees to count and watch. What were they doing here together? Had our new vision of them made their common presence only now visible to us? Perhaps they were here for road kills, or maybe it was a stopping place while they waited for the air to warm. Where had they come from, where were they going? We found we knew almost nothing about these outcasts. We knew at least they were not going to murder our kittens. I picked up some of the hundreds of black feathers that littered the ground underneath the big trees, put them on the dashboard, and drove on. Suddenly, one light downy feather leapt out of the window, and I grabbed the rest as they hovered, fluttering between the glass and the plastic of the dash. I was surprised to discover that I cherished those feathers, that they were some spiritual link with those great birds, and I was very sad to have lost one. Fearing to lose any more, I took the rest and tangled them into Barbie’s golden dynel hair, clipping them in with her poodle barrette. Looking at them there, she suddenly became more real, losing some of her sterile Barbiehood, and I saw her as an symbol of human life out of touch with, and trying to regain, the natural world. She was grateful to me, I’m sure, for bringing her closer to the earth.

Occasionally, the mother cat will bring a rodent into the trailer and tear it to bits. We wake to the gruesome sight of squirrel foot here, tail there, half-eaten skull sucked clean of little squirrel brains over there. My sweet purring friend is transformed into a fiend by the full moon, and engages in horrible bloody orgies of death and violence while we sleep. Cleaning up the gory mess, I took up the poor squirrel’s tail; admiring its beauty, and out of pity for it’s vanished life, I tucked it away with the unpaid bills.

Cleaning my car is a trivial task that I somehow often postpone until I am in mortal danger from the diet soda cans piling up under my brake pedal. In some ways I love a mess. It reminds me of the rubble on the forest floor, and carries the history of my living. A clean orderly environment is beautiful, efficient, and I do love it. A disorganized and messy space it embarrassing, unsightly and inefficient, yet I also love it. There is some perverse beauty in smashed fenders and piles of trash, scarred hands and bare muddy feet. Shiny shoes are nice but they, like Barbie, seem to live in some world that does not really exist, except in our imaginations. Bare muddy feet, on the other hand, are the essence of life on, and with, the earth. I always know where I am when wearing my home grown soles. I have found that when walking barefooted on a trail in pitch darkness, feeling the stones, ruts and scattered leaves with my toes, a clear image of the trail appears in my mind, and I can easily find my way. I know more clearly who and where I am, whether on grass, asphalt, rocks or broken glass; whether the ground is wet or dry. And my shoes never get wet. Anyway, when I have finally filled the two trash cans it usually takes to finish the archeological dig that is cleaning out my car, I often feel a twinge of loss. The popcorn bucket from that great movie, a single muddy little sock from an afternoon of blissful play in the creek, the wrapper from that especially delicious burrito, all those little mementos of the lost moments of my life, now just so much garbage. I sometimes try to soothe that loss by reintroducing a little history into the space. This one day, while reattaching my Barbie head to the now sparkling clean rear-view mirror, I was struck by her incompleteness. In some, no doubt, deep spiritual insight I remembered the dead animal parts I had stashed away. I climbed up on top of the trailer and got my owl talon, now bleached and aged by the sun and rain, and found that by some miracle of providence it fit perfectly into the hole that was meant to accept Barbie’s long slender neck. Then I rummaged through the bills, found the striped brown squirrel tail, discovering that by the same divine intervention, it too would fit perfectly. Taking the poodle barrette from Barbie’s hair, I clipped the tail around Barbie’s neck as a stylish fur collar. I was suddenly stunned by the beauty of this object that had evolved inside my car.

Pondering, with mixed embarrassment and delight, the awesome significance and beauty of my Barbie fetish, I shared with my wife the complex symbolism of my charm. I realized that it summed up a lot of how I felt about life. But it lacked a little something. A link to the earth perhaps, something inanimate perhaps. In a flash, I envisioned my talisman with a crystal clutched in its talon. As I described this vision, she extracted from her purse an almost perfect octahedral crystal that she pried into the claws of my fetish. Providence had again blessed this now holy object.

I brought the Barbie fetish into a friend’s home that we were gratefully house-sitting. I wanted to share it with some old friends who were visiting for the holidays. I had started kindergarten with these guys and remained best friends through high school. They are still my closest friends. The next day I left for work, forgetting my Barbie fetish. I was surprised to find that I was actually very disturbed at the thought of my long commute without Barbie’s sky blue plastic eyes watching the road for me. I even considered returning 5 miles to get her, making myself late for work. I felt off balance and disoriented, even lonely. But reason prevailed, I drove on, and naturally, no ill fate befell me. I was forced to stay away at my job for a few nights. By the time I got back, my family had returned to our compound which by now consisted of two trailers, five tents and our beloved, if often this winter quite literally, icy tipi. They had found Barbie and packed her, but somehow her squirrel-tail-with-poodle-barrette collar had become lost. I tried to hide the depth of my disappointment. A few days later I was back staying overnight on the job. I had been away through most of the holidays, and large rifts and tears had formed in our family under this stress. My wife felt abandoned and lonely. I worried that she no longer cared about me, and the kids struggled to remember what I looked like. One day she called to tell me that she had “performed a gruesome act on my behalf”. She had seen a dead squirrel in the road and had stopped, gotten out her eighteen year old Swiss army knife (I have probably donated twenty to the entropy well in the same amount of time) and cut off the still warm tail, aghast as she watched the dark purple drops of blood ooze from the stump. She told me that it was tucked away in the bill basket, and that it was waiting for Barbie and me. I knew at that moment, with absolute certainty, that she did really care about me. In fact, I was amazed to realize that I have never been more moved by any gift. Our daughter delighted in meeting me when I finally returned home with a replacement yellow plastic poodle barrette.

The Barbie fetish is whole again. Sometimes the rough dirt road leading out to our home jars the metallic band that holds this heavenly object to my rear view mirror, and I find that Barbie is staring at me, and not watching the road like she should be. I always turn her around. I have since discovered that the little plastic knob that switches the mirror into it’s night position (and that I have never seen anyone use for that function), fits perfectly between the two strands of the metallic hair-band, and keeps her facing diligently forward.

The angel that is not, between the good evilness, and the evil goodness, surrounded by life consuming life, clutching perilously to a stone. That is my Barbie fetish, and I guess, that is our existence, brought into being by the magically mundane.

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